I love my husband.  I’m sure you already have that figured out if you have been reading my blog for any length of time.  He’s not perfect (neither am I) but he is perfect for me.  He might be Grumpy but he can also be loving in a surprising amount of ways.  Like when I roll over and face the other direction in bed – and he reaches over to lay his hand on my arm.  And keeps it there.  Like when we are watching a movie together and he will come sit on the couch beside me, reach over and take my hand and say “You know, your not too bad for an old buzzard.” .  There is also the time I came home from work to find he had found the toothbrush holder and shower head to match our bathroom.  Or even the night he kissed me in my sleep.  🙂  How could I not love him?  When he obviously loves me.  He has a tough exterior and many wouldn’t know he has a soft heart.   Let me tell you all.  He’s not all that bad.  🙂

It has been almost 10 years since our first date….where I thought he stood me up.  We were meeting at the theater to go see “The Others”.  I got there and I waited.   I waited some more.  Then, I waited a little longer.  I got up and went to my car figuring he had stood me up.  I sat behind my wheel and thought why am I out here?  You see, I didn’t just go to be with Grumpy.  I also went because I wanted to see the movie!  I got back out of my car and headed into the mall.  As I was walking in from the back entrance, there was Grumpy-walking into the front entrance.  He had a flat tire on the way to meet me.  He wasn’t standing me up at all.  I guess we were just meant to be.

We have been married for 6 years now.  Not really all that long when I think about it.  But we have been through a lot together in that short amount of time.  Still going through a lot.  Through it all though, my love for him is still strong.  His happiness or pain, it is all mine too.  I will stand beside him for the rest of my life.  No matter what happens.

Happy Anniversary Grumpy.  I love you…….too.  ;o)
 These were supposed to be my first ever Red Velvet Cupcake.  Well, they turned out not so red because after I started to make them I found I didn’t have any red food coloring!  So, I added some pink.  Close enough.  Like these cupcakes, things aren’t always perfect with Grumpy and me.  But also like these cupcakes – I love him anyway.  Sometimes the best things in life come with some of the hardest times to deal with.  However, we can sweeten that pot some.  With love…..and cupcakes.  🙂
Not So Red Velvet Cupcakes
adapted from Allrecipes.com Red Velvet Cupcake Recipe
1-1/4 cups flour
1/4 cup dutch process cocoa powder
1/2 teaspoon baking soda
1/4 teaspoon salt
1/2 cup butter, softened
1 cups sugar
2 eggs
1/2 cup sour cream
1/4 cup milk
1 ounce bottle Red Food Color (or be like me and use pink!)
1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract
Vanilla Cream Cheese Frosting:
2 oz  cream cheese, softened
1/8 cup butter, softened
1 tablespoons sour cream
1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract
Confectioner’s sugar
Preheat oven to 350 degrees F. Mix flour, cocoa powder, baking soda and salt in medium bowl. Set aside.
Beat butter and sugar in large bowl with electric mixer on medium speed until light and fluffy. Beat in eggs, one at a time. Mix in sour cream, milk, food color and vanilla. Gradually mix in flour mixture on low speed until just blended.  Scoop batter into 12  paper-lined muffin cups.  I used a large cookie scoop – and filed the cups about 2/3 full.  Bake 20-25 minutes (mine went about 23 minutes).  Cool completely before frosting.
For the frosting, mix cream cheese, butter, sour cream and vanilla until smooth.  Mix in approximately 1-1/2 cups confectioner’s sugar.  Adding more if needed to make frosting the consistency you like.  Enjoy!

About the Author: Shelby Law Ruttan

Shelby is the author/owner of Grumpy's Honeybunch. Established in 2007, she shares and preserves family recipes as well as recipes for cooking light and keto. She is an experienced, self-taught home cook who loves to share recipes with others. You can see her work on websites such as Veal Made Easy, Parade, Community Table, SoFab Food, Yummly, and FoodGawker.


  1. pegasuslegend June 19, 2010 at 11:30 am - Reply

    Happy Happy Anniversary to both you too love birds!!! and I look forward to see you sharing 1000's more stories like this one on your happiness! Congrats you too!!!! Adorable cupcake and a perfect choice, red velvet has some great memories behind their exsistance and the recipes popularity for years of happy moments.

  2. Gabe's Girl June 19, 2010 at 11:37 am - Reply

    I love this post. Congratulations on your anniversary!
    It is great to see strong, happy marriages. They make the world a better place!

  3. Cristine June 19, 2010 at 12:18 pm - Reply

    What a beautiful post! Happy anniversary! May you have a lifetime of happy years together!

  4. bellini valli June 19, 2010 at 12:34 pm - Reply

    Happy anniversary to you both. I am glad you found each other:D

  5. Debbie June 19, 2010 at 1:03 pm - Reply

    Happy anniversary! Mine was 2 days ago… 32 years. I wrote a story about it too. LOL

  6. Barbara Bakes June 19, 2010 at 1:45 pm - Reply

    Happy Anniversary. Mine was this week too. Your cupcakes look delicious. Love the frosting.

  7. Cooking with Kait June 19, 2010 at 2:43 pm - Reply

    Happy 6 year anniversary! These cupcakes look great and I love the way you did the frosting.

  8. Jamie June 19, 2010 at 2:43 pm - Reply

    Congratulations and a very very Happy Anniversary. We are almost at 23 and it sounds like you and Grumpy (mine is too) are headed for the long run! There is nothing like the magic of true love….

    And love the cupcakes.

  9. Fallon June 19, 2010 at 3:37 pm - Reply

    Happy Anniversary!!!

  10. Mary June 19, 2010 at 4:37 pm - Reply

    I'm sending anniversary wishes to both of you. Fate. Kismet. Karma. No matter what you call it, it would appear you two were meant to be. I loved the story of your first date. That certainly is one for the memory books. Have a great day. Blessings…Mary

  11. Jamie June 19, 2010 at 5:23 pm - Reply

    Happy Anniversary Shelby and Grumpy! Have a fabulous day celebrating your marriage. And the cupcakes look yummy too!

  12. bunkycooks June 19, 2010 at 6:25 pm - Reply

    Happy anniversary! This was a very sweet post. 🙂

  13. Ingrid June 19, 2010 at 7:43 pm - Reply

    AW, that was a lovely post!

    Happy Anniversary to you both! Here's too many more delicious years ahead for you two!

  14. howtobaker June 19, 2010 at 7:52 pm - Reply

    Happy anniversary! The cupcakes look great. Thanks for sharing your special moment with us.

  15. Sippity Sup June 19, 2010 at 11:48 pm - Reply

    From what I read OFCOURSE you meant to be together. Somebody "up there" just needed to step in and make you see it. I have been in a relationship for almost 21 years (and I am not even all that old! So I can say from experience. There is more great stuff ahead! GREG

  16. Gera @ Sweets Foods Blog June 20, 2010 at 12:12 am - Reply

    Happy anniversary to both!! More sweet year for coming!!

    Have a great weekend,


  17. Fight the Fat Foodie June 20, 2010 at 3:16 am - Reply

    What a great story!

  18. Becky June 20, 2010 at 3:20 am - Reply

    Happy Anniversary,
    Wishing you both many more years of happiness together!
    I think I am married to Grumpy's twin on the West Coast. Amazing how close your story is to ours.
    Love reading your blog.
    Perfect isn't real just keep being real!

  19. Megan June 20, 2010 at 7:58 pm - Reply

    I'm glad you and Grumpy found each other, the love really shines through. Your cupcakes look so tempting!

  20. baking.serendipity June 21, 2010 at 2:42 am - Reply

    Happy Anniversary! These look like an awesome way to celebrate 🙂

  21. Mags June 21, 2010 at 10:38 am - Reply

    Awwww…. you guys are perfect for each other. What a sweet post. Happy Anniversary!

  22. Maria June 21, 2010 at 1:55 pm - Reply

    Happy Anniversary. Love the cupcakes!

  23. Jessie June 21, 2010 at 5:59 pm - Reply

    aww this made me tear up because you guys are great together and remind me of Hurley and I!

    Happy Anniversary! and those cupcakes are perfect for the occasion 🙂

  24. ohbabyo June 23, 2010 at 2:40 am - Reply

    Happy Anniversary!!!
    I really enjoyed reading the story of how you and Grumpy came to be. Thanks for sharing. 🙂

  25. Grumpy and HoneyB June 23, 2010 at 10:14 am - Reply

    Thanks everyone!

    Yes, we really are great together. I can't imagine my life without my Grumpy. I have never loved anyone the way I love Grumpy.

    and my love for my children is just as profound…just different! 🙂

  26. Natalie June 23, 2010 at 6:23 pm - Reply

    aww this story is too cute! love it! and those cupcakes, red or not, look so yummy!

Leave A Comment

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Shelby Welcome! I'm Shelby, author of Grumpy's Honeybunch. I have been sharing family favorite recipes since 2007. I started the Keto Diet in October 2017 and since then I have been creating Keto ... read more

Latest Cookbook Available Now

As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.

Pescatarian Cookbook Preorder Now Image

One Pot Paleo Cookbook by Shelby Law Ruttan